{"id":3440,"date":"2006-11-20T01:34:00","date_gmt":"2006-11-20T06:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/?p=3440"},"modified":"2017-12-12T15:55:07","modified_gmt":"2017-12-12T21:55:07","slug":"book-report-nice-girls-do-and-now-you-can-too-by-dr-irene-kassorla-1980","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/2006\/11\/20\/book-report-nice-girls-do-and-now-you-can-too-by-dr-irene-kassorla-1980\/","title":{"rendered":"Book Report: Nice Girls Do &#8211; And Now You Can Too! by Dr. Irene Kassorla (1980)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When you&#8217;ve got a self-help sex book with the dedication <i>TO MY FATHER &#8211; Who taught me the meaning of tenderness with his soft cheeks and gentle hands<\/i>, you know you&#8217;re getting into some downright creepy psychoanalysis territory.  To help women of the baby boom generation cope with their sexual hang-ups, Dr. Irene Kassorla has devised the <font size=\"1\">PLEASURE PROCESS<\/font>, a set of steps not actually recognized by ANSI or ISO.  This process involves the usual good advice about sex:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Care about your partner.\n<li>Communicate with your partner.\n<li>Have sex with your partner.<\/ul>\n<p>However, it&#8217;s wrapped in psychoanalysis that <i>obviously<\/i> traces all sexual hangups to interaction with the parents as a baby.  Ergo, Dr. Kassorla invites you to free-associate while going at it, particularly if you&#8217;re able to free-associate yourself to a repressed memory and its attendant guilt of a moment where your daddy was changing you and you were gloriously naked in the bassinet.  If you&#8217;re able to talk about that with your partner while you&#8217;re both, um, busy, you&#8217;ll get over the guilt that&#8217;s held you back and will finally achieve orgasm.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, ew.  Please.  No.  That&#8217;s not a test of whether your partner <i>loves<\/i> you, ladies; that&#8217;s a test of whether your partner <i>is listening to you<\/i>.  For his sake and for the sake of your relationship, I hope he&#8217;s not.<\/p>\n<p>Frankly, Irene Kassorla is no <a href=\"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/2004\/07\/06\/1125\/\" target=\"_new\">Marabel Morgan<\/a>, and I&#8217;m glad Ruth Westheimer had Dr. Kassorla &#8220;disappeared&#8221; in the great sex therapist turf battles of the end of the disco era.  Because frankly, I&#8217;m more hung up than when I started the book.<\/p>\n<p><center><b>Books mentioned in this review:<\/b><\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"http:\/\/rcm.amazon.com\/e\/cm?t=stlbrianj-20&#038;o=1&#038;p=8&#038;l=as1&#038;asins=0936906014&#038;fc1=000000&#038;IS2=1&#038;lt1=_blank&#038;lc1=0000FF&#038;bc1=000000&#038;bg1=FFFFFF&#038;f=ifr\" style=\"width:120px;height:240px;\" scrolling=\"no\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><br \/>\n<\/center><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you&#8217;ve got a self-help sex book with the dedication TO MY FATHER &#8211; Who taught me the meaning of tenderness with his soft cheeks and gentle hands, you know you&#8217;re getting into some downright creepy psychoanalysis territory. To help women of the baby boom generation cope with their sexual hang-ups, Dr. Irene Kassorla has [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3334,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3440","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book-report","category-books"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3440","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3334"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3440"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3440\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18433,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3440\/revisions\/18433"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3440"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3440"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brianjnoggle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3440"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}